Marie Claire
Sep 2004

4 New Orgasm Truths & Lies
by Lisa Lombardi

Can a pill boost desire? Does drinking enhance sex? The real answers to these and other hot questions can get you your best orgasms ever

1. NO PILL CAN BOOST YOUR LIBIDO. TRUE OR FALSE?
False. Female Viagra hasn’t panned out, but two studies suggest there is a pill that can enhance your libido—and believe it or not, it’s an antidepressant. . “Buproprion has been shown to boost desire in women who are not actually depressed,” says Hilda Hutcherson, M.D., codirector of the New York Center for Women’s Sexual health at Columbia Presbyterian Medical Center. This drug (sold as Wellbutrin or Zyban) increased sexual desire in nearly 30 percent of the women who took it in a Case Western Reserve university School of Medicine study, while a placebo had no effect. Another study suggested it boosts orgasm quality.

2. YOU CAN BE AROUSED AND NOT KNOW IT. TRUE OR FALSE?
True. In several studies, women who saw erotic videos showed physical signs of sexual readiness (increased vaginal blood flow and lubrication, erect nipples) but didn’t realize they were raring to go. The key to increased desire—and better sex—is to get your mind where your body already is, says psychologist Pam Spurr, Ph.D., author of Naughty Tricks and Sex Tips. Tune in to everyday turn-ons—the sights, smells, and fleeting thoughts that make you feel oh-so-sensual, like the feel of your skirt hem against freshly shaved legs. The more you can get into the moment, the more potent your orgasms will be.

3. AN ORGASM FROM PENETRATION IS THE DEEPEST AND MOST INTENSE. TRUE OR FALSE?
False. About 70 to 75 percent of women can’t reach orgasm through penetrative sex alone. The most explosive climax, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Confessions to a Sexologist, is the full-body, long-lasting “tri-orgasm.” Here’s how to get it: Try clitoral stimulation first, move to vaginal stimulation for a few minutes, and then move back to the clitoris. When you’re almost at the peak, stimulate the clitoris, G-spot, and the anus at the same time to get an earth-shattering orgasm.

4. ALCOHOL NEVER LEADS TO BETTER SEX. TRUE OR FALSE?
False. “A glass of wine can lessen inhibitions, which can make it easier to become aroused,” says Laura Berman, Ph.D., director of the Berman Center in Chicago. Less anxiety also allows for the deeper breathing that’s so conducive to a great climax. But skip the second drink. “Alcohol is a central-nervous-system depressant,” says Beverly Whipple, Ph.D., co-author of The G Spot: And Other Discoveries About Human Sexuality, “so having more than one drink can put the kibosh on the whole operation.”