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Cosmopolitan
May 2001

Learn to Use Your Sexual Imagination

Get in the mood at a moment’s notice by indulging in a frisky fantasy. Just follow our simple guide to creating the most incredible carnal dreams.

Ponder His Prowess
Janet, 26, says that her level of satisfaction has been tipping the scales ever since she first tagged along with her sweetie on a rock climb. “I’d always worshipped his body, but watching his legs hoist his gorgeous torso up that boulder made me weak-kneed. I was in heaven dreaming up all the ways I wanted those legs wrapped around me. Janet’s too-hot testimonial also points to another turn-on truth. “Seeing a guy at his strongest can take you off in all sorts of imaginary directions-it’s an innate reaction to men’s domineering traits,” says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Stock Market Orgasm, who suggests trying to derive a sexual daydream from a scene that features your man working his best skills.

Flip the Fantasy Switch
Now that you have tons of bawdy thoughts coursing through your brain, it’s time to put them to good use. The next time you and your mate are messing around, put your imagination to work-even if your bed buddy isn’t a major player in the scene. Sure, you should love the one you’re with, but there’s nothing wrong with drawing on other sexy scenarios at the same time, explains Cadell. If you make a regular habit of dreaming up sex surrogates, it may hint that your main man isn’t satisfying you, but an occasional mental tryst (which, by the way, you may want to keep to yourself) doesn’t make you unfaithful. In fact, fantasizing can make an already great sex life phenomenal. The more excited you are, the more excited he’ll be. For instance, if the thought of going south of the border on Benicio Del Toro makes you more enthusiastic about having oral sex with your guy, what’s the harm. “I once actually imagined my boss in bed when I was with my boyfriend,” recalls Ann, 30. “It sounds totally twisted, and at first, I was racked with guilt-both for not being “faithful” and for getting hot over my boss. But swapping my otherwise sweet, sensitive boyfriend for an exec barking out orders put me over the edge…I’m not used to feeling over-powered in bed, and this let me feel like my pleasure was completely in someone else’s hands. My guy still asks me what he did that night that made me come like that, but I’ll take the secret to my grave!”

Give the missionary a makeover.
To pump some red-hot passion into this ho-hum position, add a new kind of friction. On your back, keep your legs straight and closed against each other rather than the usual spread-eagle pose. When he enters you, squeeze his penis between your thighs, causing him to brush against your clitoris with every thrust. The bonus for him? When your legs are closed, your vagina becomes tighter, so he’ll feel the friction too. A win-win situation!