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Cosmopolitan
February 2005

Foreplay Your Guy’s Way
by Ted Spiker

No, they don’t just want a thrustathon. Men crave lots of pre-sex teasing and tantalizing too.

It may take little more than a grope to prep your man for nooky, but get this: If you spend time engaging in pre-play, you’ll pave the way for more pleasure than ever. “When a man is turned on before sex in the right way, it not only feels good, but his body is also more receptive and his orgasm more intense,” says sex expert Gloria Brame, Ph.D. Here, five foreplay-for-him maneuvers that’ll tantalize your guy.

Let Him View Your Bod

You…naked. It’s already the hottest gift for your guy. Let him really soak up the sight and he’ll sizzle to an even higher temperature. “Men’s brain chemistry changes when they’re presented with a sexy image,” says Brame, “so flaunting your body will make his desire climb.”

To give him a view to a thrill, crib these peep-show pointers. Push him down on the bed and straddle him. Then, while he’s defenseless, very leisurely peel off one piece of your clothing at a time. To really titillate him, let him sneak a peek at the good stuff-your breasts, butt, inner thighs-but then cover up again. When you finally get down to removing your panties, do it painfully slow so he feels the burn.

. “Once you’re naked, tease him by twisting your body over him in different directions, arching your back, and letting your breasts graze his face and chest,” says sex expert Ava Cadell, Ph.D. He’ll be absolutely aching for your touch by the time you finally press your body against his.

Take it from Kyle, 22. “My girlfriend stripped and sat me down in front of a big mirror. Then she said ‘Hands off’ and began to undress me,” he recalls. “Watching her-but not being able to have her-was torture…in a good way.” Let him look, but don’t let him touch. That anticipating is a powerful too.

Use Your Breath

Relax, you can leave the Tantric breathing to Sting. But there’s something to be said for using your mouth to work up your man. Start by letting your parted lips linger somewhere on his body, like his stomach or chest, then slowly exhale. “The rush of hot air will create a temperature change in his skin and heighten arousal, says Dr. Ava Cadell.

My girlfriend does this thing where she takes a long, wet lick up my neck followed by a warm breath,” says Christopher, 29. “Or sometimes she’ll go really fast, alternating between licking and cool blowing on my nipples. It’s like a stimulation bonanza.”

Now, a couple of heated rounds like this and your guy’s gonna want to go for the gusto. So to reel him back: Work your way south to his package, pucker up, and blast a circle of cool air around his penis, as if you were putting out the candles on a cake. “Breathing cool air on a hot region will actually make his arousal last longer,” says Dr. Ava Cadell.

Tantalize With Touch

Guys are surprisingly touchy between the sheets, and we’re not just talking about how he measures up to your ex. “Men desire a variety of hands-on stimulation techniques,” says Brame. And guess what, it’s not where you think. Instead of heading straight for his package, mix up your sexual touches-think: hard massage, long nail strokes, surprise pinches-all over his body to pique his pleasure.

That’s what Jess, 29, found out. “I thought the only place Jason was interested in being touched was between his legs, but when I pinned him down and stared kneading his butt cheeks and sucking on his earlobes, he went wild,” she says. Jess has the right idea, according to Dr. Ava Cadell. “These contrasting caresses electrify the nerve endings in his skin, and the surprise factor helps rev him up even more,” she says.

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