Project Description

Cosmopolitan
February 2006

Read Between His Lines
By: Brooke Le Poer Trench

He Says: . “My relationship is essentially over.”

He Means:

“I’m attracted, but I want to have sex with you.”

Source: Ava Cadell, PhD, Clinical Sexologist

Man Manuel: Guy Spy

How to Score a Second Date:

Bust out these moves next time you’re hanging with a dude you really want to see again. The phone will definitely ring.

Give Him Encouragement:

Say something like “I had a great time tonight” before your part ways. A guys is far more likely to ask you out again if you leave him with some clear indication that you’re interested.

Know When to Bite Your Tongue:

We live in a confess-all culture where telling everyone everything is okay. But on first dates, guys are supersensitive to a few topics that really turn them off. Some examples: anything to do with personal hygiene, why your last relationship failed, your thoughts on commitment, and current body hang-ups.

Hold Off on Hitting the Sack:

Sure he’s putting the moves on you, but most guys would rather you make them wait beyond your first meeting. Fact is, men love challenges, so give him something to chase.

Make Him Work Around You:

Of course you want to see him again, but don’t be available for marathon text-messaging sessions every time. It sends the message that you have a life beyond this potential romance… which men love.

SOURCE: Psychologist Harville Hendrix, PhD, author of Keeping the Love You Find; Myron Lewis, author of Making Right Turns in Your Relationship. Fact Source: University of Michigan Institute for Social Research Study.

…Dude brain scan.
“Why are they all so obsessed with sports?”

Men’s love affair with sports starts early. “Boys are encouraged to play and watch sports from a young age, so they develop the habit that way,” says psychologist Paul L. Fair, PhD, coauthor of I’m Right. You’re Wrong. Now What? And it’s no wonder they take to it with a passion—they’re built for it. “Men are competitive and often have a winner-takes-all mentality in life—two of the main themes in sports,” says Fair. That’s why guys get so upset when their team loses: They’re emotionally invested in the outcome. “It’s a lot more than just a game to them,” says Fair.