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Men’s Health
Sept 1998

7 Secrets of Hot Sex

They may not like to admit it, but women like receiving oral sex as much as we do. If you’ve already figured out how to make your partner hear colors, we salute you. But if you could use a bit more time in the lab, try this technique: It’s the fabled Venus butterfly, described for us here by Ava Cadell, Ph.D., a clinical sexologist in Los Angeles:

Spend some time kissing and touching until your partner starts to become aroused, then gently pull back to hood of her clitoris. Stimulate the clitoris with short, then long strokes, with either your tongue or your moistened fingers. Ask your partner to tell you when she’s reached at least “8” on an excitement scale of 1 to 10.

Then, with small, circular motions, stimulate the entire outside are of the vagina with your tongue and your fingers, until she’s back down to “5”.

Now, go back to the clitoris. When she reaches “8” again, place the palm of your hand against her genitals and slide one finger in to her vagina. With your fingertip, tap a spot about 2 inches inside her vagina, on the upper wall. (Home of the elusive G-spot – some women have it and some don’t, but either way, this will feel good.)

Now, just keep stroking or licking her clitoris while tapping her G-spot. She’ll let you know when it’s time to stop.