Women’s Health
Fall/Winter 2004

11 Fun (and Sexy) Things to Do with a Man
by Cristina Goyanes

There’s nothing wrong with your sex life that a little adventure (and peppermint schnapps) won’t cure.

“Ultimately, fun is the best aphrodisiac,” says Paul Joannides, says author of The Guide to Getting It On! “Quit looking for sexy, and look for fun instead—and you’ll end up having more sex.” We like the way this guy things. That’s why we brainstormed these adventures (with some help from sex experts and our male friends). To get more sex. For you. Call it our little community service project.

1. Take him shopping… and let him pick the clothes. Men don’t hate shopping because of the money. It’s the sitting on the boyfriend couch at Banana Republic that they don’t like. But what guy wouldn’t be enthused about a mall trip if he knew that every 2 minutes a beautiful woman would pop by to model a sexy outfit he just picked out? “Men love to enhance their erotic experience visually, so if a woman is willing to play exhibitionist, it should work like a charm,” says Carol Queen, Ph.D., author of Exhibitionism for the Shy. If he agrees to buy, there’s no reason you shouldn’t agree to model.

2. Get naked!Pour peppermint schnapps in your belly button. Have him sip it. Then have him kiss your breasts and blow on the spots he kissed. The peppermint schnapps and air combine for a cool sensation that heightens arousal, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., a Los Angeles sex therapist. Do some shopping at adult-toy Web sites and the grocery store. There’s a whole world of flavors and textures—whipped cream, chocolate and fruit-flavored sauces, liqueurs—out there to play with. (Beware of oil-based products, such as many massage oils with coconut, which can eat away and break latex condoms.)

3. Dance! Turn dancing into dirty dancing with an Audi-Oh Butterfly Vibrator, which pulsates to the speed and intensity of whatever beat is playing. Wear the harness with butterfly vibe underneath your panties. Then bump and grind to throbbing music with him at a club, or play deejay at home. This is one remote you won’t fight over ($80, babeland.com).

4. Get naked again! Make your own art—on each other. Pick up a chocolate tattoo set ($15, early2bed.com). The creative kit includes a jar of chocolate body frosting, stencil sheets, and a paintbrush. Lick off.