Cosmopolitan
December 2009

He Says What During Sex?!
By Mina Azodi

The Quiet Guy
What he sounds like: Just heavy breathing… or wait, is that the heater?

What it means: No surprise here: The radio silence signals that you’ve got yourself an inhibited dude between the sheets. “The silent type is all bottled up,” says sex expert Ava Cadell, author of Passion Power. “Men are raised to think keeping emotions in is a sign of strength, so it’s only natural for that to carry over into the bedroom.”

Your move: While you don’t want to be doing it with a blabber, it’s important for a guy to be comfortable with getting a little verbal so you can both tell you’re having a good time. Start out slowly by asking him yes or no questions. Whisper in his ear, “Do you like how this feels?” After he answers, moan a little and say, “It turns me on to hear how much you like it.” That way, he’ll start to connect making noise with exciting you, says Cadell.

The Blasphemer

What he sounds like: “ohhh my God… Jesus Christ, that’s hot… hoooly crap, you feel awesome.”

What is means: He’s turned on by being a little bit naughty in bed, and since his words are borderline dirty talk, he may have a kinkier side he’s keeping under wraps. “It’s likely this is his way of testing his own boundaries as well as figuring out whether you would be comfortable with more,” says Cadell.

Your move: If you want to encourage him to loosen up and show more of his wild side, take it up a notch with more aggressive moves, like gently biting his shoulder if he’s on top of you or running your fingernails down his back. “This clues him in to the fact that you’re craving naughtier action,” explains Cadell.

Prefer your sex without a side of Bible? Play the “do as I do” game, and only makes noises like mmm and ohhh. “Mimicking you will help him break his habit, and his phrases will start to become less and less frequent,” says Fullbright.

The Superloud Moaner

What hr sounds like: “OoooOOOHHHhhh”

What is means: “This type of man is extremely sensual, ” says Cadell. The only problem? He gets so wrapped up in his own pleasure, he forgets to pay attention to the sounds you are making to see if you’re having just as good of a time as he is.

Your move: You’ll need to be directto get him to scale down the decibel level and listen up a little. Being subtle doesn’t work since he in pleasure mode. When he’s midmoan, playfully put a finger to his lips and say, “If you get any louder, our neighbors will file a violation.”