Cosmopolitan
April 2006

Sex Goddess Secrets:
By: Molly Triffin

There are women who are great in bed, and then there are sex goddesses—chicks who not only have a stash of killer seduction tricks but whose finely tuned sack skills push men over the edge. In addition, they’ve mastered an enthusiastic, almost-anything-goes attitude and know how to make any guy feel like a great lover. Most important, they do all this without compromising their own pleasure. As for becoming a bona fide sex goddess yourself, integrate these scorching tips (gleaned from top sex experts) into your repertoire and you’ll attain that supreme status too.

Goddess Secret: They coax a man out of his carnal safe zone.

Men tend to fall into position ruts because they’re focused on climaxing. “He’ll opt for the tried-and-true move he know will get him off,” explains Ava Cadell PhD, author of Pocket Idiot’s Guide to Oral Sex. “But he’ll be glad if you push him to try new stuff.” After all, that’s what gifted sex partners do. Figure out what else he’ll enjoy based on his go-to position. Example: Doggie-style dudes may also love reverse cowgirl because of the similar angle.

Goddess Secret: They send passion signals.

You know how sometimes you’re in the mood for a quickie and other times you want sensual sex? Clue guys in to those cravings. “When men are turned on, their ability to interpret physical signs is heightened,” says Cadell. For example: Knead his tush for forceful action; trail your finger down his back for a gentle response.

Goddess Secret: They do unexpected things with their bodies.

. “The more you surprise your man, the more aroused he’ll get,” says Cadell. Carnal queens come up with tons of creative, frisky ideas, and one source of inspiration is their own bodies. Some mind-blowing moves that don’t require you to be a contortionist: Tickle his testicles with your hair or stick your heels into the back of his thighs during sex.

Goddess Secret: They amp up the risk.

Sexual savants know one way to score a major buzz during nooky is to up the risk of getting caught. Seduce your guy somewhere semipublic. One idea: Leave the shades open while hooking up. “In risky situations, your body releases extra testosterone and activates neurotransmitters in the brain, which increase arousal,” explains Cadell.

Goddess Secret: They maximize body contact.

Try to touch as much of his skin with yours as you possibly can during sex to create the sense that you are melting into each other. “This traps your body heat and feels very intimate,” says Cadell. The prime positions for connecting on this level: missionary with his chest against yours, doggie-style when you’re both lying down, or standing.

Goddess Secret: They lock eyes during oral.

An experienced woman knows a guy loves watching her pleasure him (glance up when you’re going down on him—he’s probably looking at you), and she capitalizes on that by giving her man a sexy stare mid-action. “This instantly increases intimacy,” affirms Cadell. It also turns him waaay on.

Goddess Secret: They hit instant replay.

The moments immediately after sex are crucial to sealing in the hotness. First, mentally savor the highlights. “This will make the pleasurable effects last longer,” says Cadell. Then several minutes post-booty session, turn to look at him and simply say, “Damn, that was good.”