Bridal Guide
Sept/Oct 2001

Sex on the Beach (and other Honeymoon-Hot ideas)
By: Heidi Henneman

Admit it: When you think about your honemoon you’re thinking about sex, Good sex, great sex, lots of sex. We’re with you-and we’ve come up with 10 ways to make honeymoon sex hotter than ever. Sex on the beach? That’s the easy part. Here’s the rest.

2. Play Aladdin.
Even if you you two are already plenty passionate in your sexual encounters, there are bound to be some things you’re dying to try- and he is sure to have some secret fantasies of his own. “Before the big day, exhange a list of three wishes, things that you think would heighten your romantic experience,” says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., a certified clinical sexologist and author of Passion Power (Peters Publishing). You don’t have to get down and dirty. Start by listing gentle activities, like a sensual massage…”

6. Be a Tease.
Kiss him, pet him, touch him, grab him. Sure, he knows he’s getting the prize in the end, but the more you tease him and build up the actual event, the more raucous the romp will be. “Sex play and intercourse are two separate things,” explains Cadell. So instead of running back to your hotel room everytime you’re feeling sexy, let him know subtly- or maybe not so subtly- how you’re feeling.

7. Play with toys.
Leave the Barbies at home, but definitely do pack the vibrators, blindfolds, whatever you like. “Get yourself a whole basket of sex toys,” suggests Cadell. You may have a few new items already thanks to your bachlorette party. “Vibrators are great if you’re making love in a position in which the penis does not directly stimulate the clitoris,” says Cadell.

8. Get Mouthy.
The basic thing to remember is that his penis is simply an extension of the rest of him. “You should kiss, touch and love it the way you would every other part of his body,” says Cadell. The most drive-him-wild destination on a man is his frenulum, a spot on the underside of his penis that looks almost like a seam. Licking and sucking that spot with send him spiraling into seventh heaven. To get his pulse really racing, suck on a piece of ice or take a sip of hot tea before going down on him. The sudden temperature chance will send him into utter ectasy.

9. Get in touch with yourself.
Masturbation is erotic- especially when you’re doing it simultaneously. “Tell your lover what you’re thinking,” says Cadell. Once you’ve taught him how to master your masturbation style, just think of all the other, less intricate things he’ll be able to learn (like how to change a roll of toilet paper!).
In the real world: Not in the mood for intercourse, but still feeling hot and bothered? Cuddle up with your cutie for some tandem touching. What a nice way to fall asleep together!

10. Go G-spot hunting.
Every man wants to find it and every woman wants to be sure she has it. Your honeymoon is a great time to go exploring. “The G-spot is usually located one-and-a-half inches inside the vagina,” says Cadell, “about a third of the way between the vaginal opening and the cervix.” You’ll know you’ve found it when you feel a spot with a ridged texture that responds to gentle stroking. (Some women will even ejaculate.)
In the real world: Keep the pursuit of happiness alive. You may be back to the daily grind workwise, but that doesn’t mean funtime should be the same-old, same-old. Spend one night a week trying new ways to bring each other to orgasm. Lick, stroke, suck, nibble and touch your way to a mutual euphoria. And don’t worry if you never can find that super spot. After all, it’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game.