PRE-SEX MOVE 1: Let Him View Your Bod
To give him a view to a thrill, crib these peep-show pointers. Push him down on the bed and straddle him. Then, while he’s defenseless, very leisurely peel off one piece of your clothing at a time. To really titillate him, let him sneak a peek at the good stuff — your breasts, butt, inner thighs — but then cover up again. When you finally get down to removing your panties, do it painfully slow so he feels the burn. “Once you’re naked, tease him by twisting your body over him in different directions, arching your back, and letting your breasts graze his face and chest,” says sex expert Ava Cadell, PhD. He’ll be absolutely aching for your touch by the time you finally press your body against his.
Take it from Kyle,* 22. “My girlfriend stripped and sat me down in front of a big mirror. Then she said ‘Hands off’ and began to undress me,” he recalls. “Watching her — but not being able to have her—was torture… in a good way.” Let him look, but don’t let him touch. That anticipation is a powerful tool.
PRE-SEX MOVE 2: Use Your Breath
Relax, you can leave the tantric breathing to Sting. But there’s something to be said for using your mouth to work up your man. Start by letting your parted lips linger somewhere on his body, like his stomach or chest, then slowly exhale. “The rush of hot air will create a temperature change in his skin and heighten arousal,” says Cadell.
“My girlfriend does this thing where she takes a long, wet lick up my neck, followed by a warm breath,” says Christopher, 29. “Or sometimes she’ll go really fast, alternating between licking and cool blowing on my nipples. It’s like a stimulation bonanza.”
Now, a couple of heated rounds like this and your guy’s gonna want to go for the gusto. So to reel him back: Work your way south to his package, pucker up, and blast a circle of cool air around his penis, as if you were putting out the candles on a cake. “Breathing cool air on a hot region will actually make his arousal last longer,” says Cadell.
PRE-SEX MOVE 4: Tantalize with Touch
Guys are surprisingly touchy between the sheets, and we’re not just talking about how he measures up to your ex. “Men desire a variety of hands-on stimulation techniques,” says Brame. And guess what, it’s not where you think. Instead of heading straight for his package, mix up your sexual touches — think: hard massage, long nail strokes, surprise pinches — all over his body to pique his pleasure.
That’s what Jess, 29, found out. “I thought the only place Jason was interested in being touched was between his legs, but when I pinned him down and started kneading his butt checks and sucking on his earlobes, he went wild,” she says. Jess has the right idea, according to Cadell. “These contrasting caresses electrify the nerve endings in his skin, and the surprise factor helps rev him up even more,” she says.