Therapist and author Dr Ava Cadell says: “A one night stand with no-strings-attached can be an great way to add excitement and adventure to your single life. As long as you are honest with the person, understand the risks, and follow these rules of casual sex.”

Safety first
“Not just in the bedroom but make sure someone else knows where you are and whom you are with. ALWAYS wear protection. STIs are the last thing anyone wants to ask about, least of all get. If the person you are bedding doesn’t want to use protection, alarm bells should be ringing and you should be leaving.

Open your mind and your mouth
“Communicate, share what turns you on,” Cadell says. “Be uninhibited, but be sure it’s not just the alcohol dictating your behaviour. It’s an opportunity for both of you to have your sexual needs met, remember your one night stand can’t read your mind so use this as an opportunity to try new sexual activities you’ve fantasised about… you won’t know if you don’t ask.”

State of Play
“Remember foreplay is important, even during a one night stand. Gentlemen, remember women need more stimulation to get revved up, passionate kissing, lots of touching and compliments are sure to boost her sexual confidence.”

Picking up the Pieces
“Leave with ALL of your stuff. Gather everything up so you don’t need to go back and pick up something you accidentally left behind.”

No expectations, no disappointments
“Have zero expectations. Don’t be upset if the experience is disappointing, dwell on an off night or fill your head with negative self-talk. If they sneak out before the crack of dawn or don’t call the next day just remember you agreed at the outset that this was for one night only,” she says.

So maybe Dr Cadell’s advice won’t prevent the raccoon eyes or the hammerhead hangover as you do the walk of shame home, but it might make it all the more fun.

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